Discussion: Interacting With Others At Events

Posted July 7, 2016 by Jamie in Blogger Advice, Discussions // 3 Comments

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Interacting With Others At Events

You’re going to a book event and are unsure how to talk to people because you hide yourself behind books 24/7 and need some advice: let us help you out. Here are some tips for interacting with other attendees AND the authors. Most important is to ACTUALLY interact with others and not just sit there. These events are so much more fun with a new friend!

Just say hello!

You already have something in common: books! Make the leap and introduce yourself.

Join in on conversations

If you’re in a queue and people are talking around you, jump in when you can contribute to the conversation. Sure it’s scary, but your opinion may be one they had never thought of before!

Don’t Stare At Your Phone

If you aren’t making eye contact with someone, they will assume you don’t want to talk. Put your device away and smile!

Find Other People Who Look Alone

If there are other people who are staring at their phone or trying to look busy, go up to them and say hello!

If they look familiar…

Ask them if they are that person you talk to all the time on the internet! More likely than not, they are and would love to have a conversation with you.

Don’t be intimidated

Fake it til you make it folks! Practice ahead of time by talking to yourself in the mirror. Like you will think you sound silly but having done it once, you won’t be as nervous to do it again.

It’s all about breaking that ice

Once you say hello, you’re in! You just have to say hello and introduce yourself.

Authors Are People Too

Authors are probably even more introverted than you because the people they talk to they make up in their minds. And they love to talk about their work and hear about how much you loved it! That’s why they do this! Here are some tips for when you are at a panel…

  • Always be sure to ask before the panel starts if you can record what is being said – some authors are uncomfortable with being filmed or don’t WANT to be. I would hate to be filmed without giving my permission.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for a picture either! More likely than not they would love to be in a picture with you if they have the time. Some panels have very long signing lines and it would just take too much time to do both. Some authors may say they will do pictures at the END if you are willing to wait around!
  • Internally freak out, but externally play it calm and collected. You can be EXCITED but don’t yell at them, you will scare them and everyone else in line.
  • Tell them that you like their book and why! Tell them how they have impacted you and your life! They eat this stuff up!
  • Authors are probably just as nervous as you, so take your time when talking to them. You get a couple minutes of one-on-one time where you can ask them things you want to know and chat with them about their books.
  • Make sure you take a deep breath to help with those nerves and don’t speak too quickly!

But, don’t make them uncomfortable.

You wouldn’t want someone to ask you personal questions if you had just met them and authors don’t want that either.

  • Instead of asking “Will you read my novel?”, ask “What tips do you have for someone writing a novel for the first time?”
  • Instead of asking “Why haven’t you written more about THIS CHARACTER?”, ask “What are you working on now?”
  • Instead of saying “PLEASE HAVE MY BABIES”, say “I really admire you and your work. Your novel has changed my life for the better”
  • Instead of asking “How much money do you make?” Leave — but seriously don’t ask this. That’s rude.

How do you break the ice at events?

About Jamie

Jamie lives over the ocean in a small town in Canada. She is a perpetual people pleaser, thus she took up a career path in Human Resources. She moonlights as a book blogger and catches up on Netflix shows when she is laying in bed wishing she could sleep.

She's been blogging at Books and Ladders since May 2015 and co-blogging at Queen of the Bookshelves since August 2015. Since Jamie can't ever really say no to a book, she reads all varieties of Science Fiction and Fantasy, YA Contemporary, YA Historical Fiction, and YA Fairy Tale/Mythology Retellings.

3 responses to “Discussion: Interacting With Others At Events

  1. Thank you for the tips Jamie! It’s super hard for me to reach out and start a convo with someone at a signing. I’m more likely to silently creep on the conversations next to me lol…. And when I see bloggers I know from online but they’re in a group, I usually don’t approach them. I definitely need to work on my social skills 🙂

  2. Maria Casacalenda (Big City Bookworm)

    Great discussion topic! If it weren’t for me stepping out of my comfort zone and saying hello to the people around me at events I would never have met you or the countless other new friends I have made since joining the book blogging community! 🙂 <3

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